What Is a Sex Toy Consultation Like?
By Amari Leigh.
Ever added a sex toy to your basket, stared at it for an hour, then closed the tab entirely?
You’re not alone! Choosing the right sexual wellness product can feel a bit like buying skincare online when you’ve got no idea what your skin type is.
Hi, I’m Amari, your certified sex coach, clinical sexologist, and accredited sex and relationship educator.
As part of my services, I offer online sex toy consultations for individuals and couples who want expert, personalized advice that actually makes sense for them.
My sessions are practical and tailored to help you explore your pleasure in a way that feels safe, empowering, and fun.
So, What Is a Sex Toy Consultation?
A sex toy consultation is a 1:1 online session designed to support you in finding the right tools to enhance your sexual wellbeing.
In our 60-minute session, we explore your desires, comfort levels, and curiosities before I recommend toys that suit your body, goals, and relationship dynamic.
You don’t need to have any experience or even own a toy already, I meet you exactly where you’re at.
This is a safe, shame-free zone where we talk about pleasure honestly and practically, using real sex education, not marketing fluff.
Why You Might Need A Sex Toy Consultation Session
Too often, people waste money on toys that don’t fit their anatomy, lifestyle, or preferences, and then blame themselves for not feeling satisfied.
Sometimes the toy is great, but it’s being used incorrectly and that’s no one’s fault.
Most online retailers don’t provide guidance on how to use the product for your unique needs or how to make it work with your partner.
A consultation helps you take control of your pleasure and stop relying on guesswork or assumptions.
You wouldn’t expect to be good at a new recipe without instructions, so why should you know how to use a toy with zero support?
Why Work With Me?
As a sex coach and sexologist, I bring not just product knowledge, but an understanding of desire, psychology, trauma, relationships, and identity into our session.
I help you figure out what kinds of stimulation work for you, what accessories or lubes will enhance the experience, and how to feel confident using what you’ve chosen.
Every recommendation I make is based on your goals, not trends or commissions.
After our session, you also get 7 days of email support where you can check in, ask questions, and explore your pleasure with me in your corner.
For Solo Play or Partnered Pleasure
These sessions work beautifully for individuals and couples alike.
If you’re flying solo, we can focus on helping you deepen your understanding of your body, break shame-based beliefs, and find tools that spark joy and pleasure.
If you’re in a couple, consultations can help break sexual ruts, open new conversations around intimacy, and give you shared knowledge to explore together.
Many people don’t realise that toys can actually bring you closer, not replace connection.
My role is to help you use these products to support your emotional and physical intimacy, not take away from it.
Maybe You Already Have Toys, But You’re Not Using Them Right
One common thing I hear from clients is: “I have toys, but I don’t think I’m using them right.”
It’s such a relatable feeling, sometimes the product is perfect for your needs, but without knowing how to position it, use the right pressure, or pair it with other tools, you end up missing out.
Maybe you’ve used a wand only externally, but it can also be amazing for partnered play.
Or you’ve never tried adding lube to a silicone toy, not realising it can transform the entire experience.
My sessions help you get the full potential from what you already have, and help you invest wisely in any new additions.
What Happens in the Session?
During our session, we’ll begin with a relaxed conversation to get to know you and what you’re hoping to gain from using toys.
Whether you’re dealing with discomfort, low desire, or just want more pleasure, we’ll dig into what’s going on and what options would feel good for you.
I’ll then introduce you to products and explain the features clearly, no techy jargon, just honest, straightforward advice.
This includes tips on what materials are body-safe, how to clean and care for them, and where to shop without wasting your time.
Ongoing Support to Keep the Confidence Flowing
After the call, you’ll have access to 7 days of email support from me.
This is your chance to follow up, share what’s working, ask anything you forgot to mention, or get help troubleshooting.
I love when clients come back saying, “I finally had the orgasm I’ve been trying for!” or “I felt so confident talking to my partner about what I want.”
That’s what this is really about, confidence, communication, connection.
How Much Is It?
A one-hour online sex toy consultation with me is £80.
It includes:
- A private, personalised video call
- Expert guidance tailored to you
- Specific toy recommendations
- Tips on usage, care, and comfort
- 7 days of email support
This is an investment in your pleasure, confidence, and self-knowledge. And it’s one that lasts much longer than a single toy ever could.
Final Thoughts
Sex toy consultations are about so much more than choosing something cute to add to your bedside drawer.
They’re about building confidence, unlearning shame, and tuning into what you actually enjoy.
With me by your side as your sex coach and educator, you’ll leave not only with a list of great products, but with the knowledge and clarity to use them well.
Whether you’re looking to explore solo play, improve intimacy in your relationship, or just feel more in control of your pleasure, I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
Let’s make pleasure a priority.
How to Book
Booking is easy. Head to https://cal.com/coachingbyamari/sex-toy-consultation to choose your session time.
Amari (she/her) runs two sex-positive businesses. She is an accredited sex and relationship educator, a clinical sexologist, and a certified sex coach, as well as a sex positive virtual assistant agency owner.
